Lovely poem :)
Meg Jay, Why 30 is not the New 20.
I can’t say that I agree with everything that is said in this video but my soul roared when she said this.
I am a firm believer that it is so, so, so essential for a person to invest in themselves and build their “identity capital.” What you invest your time, energy and money in will eventually define you - whether it’s yourself, your relationship, your “dude, this one time I got sooo wasted” stories….all of it is an investment into your future self (but I believe that it is and should be a process that extends beyond your 20s - so chill, Meg.)
And with that, I am off to build my Identity Capital by studying the articulatory benefits of muscle circumlaryngeal therapy and the proper methodology for measuring fundamental frequencies for therapy!
I have written this little piece to get people thinking about, talking about, and sorting out their potential SAD symptoms. Around 10% of us northern Europeans will experience symptoms of Seasonal Affective Disorder between November-March due to the dwindling day-time hours of winter. Ranging from feeling a bit blue, to severe depressive episodes; it can force many to dread the colder months – especially if you’re prone to bouts of illness.
Common symptoms include sleep problems, lack of energy, overeating, anxiety, loss of interest in socialising, relationship problems, anxiety, and symptoms relating to depression such as feeling sad, tearful, guilty and apathetic.
Although taking a visit to your GP is advisable if you believe you are suffering with SAD, there are many simple ways to self-manage the symptoms – taking antidepressants is not a decision to be taken lightly.
· Going for a walk outside during your lunch hour or on the weekends sound so simple, yet will benefit your mood. The reasons behind this are exercise has been proven to benefit people suffering with depression due to the release of ‘happy hormones’ such as dopamine and endorphins. On top of that, the exposure to day light will help tackle to ease SAD symptoms, so purchasing a light box may also be a good idea.
· Try to spend some time with people who make you laugh and smile – it’s very easy to fall into a trap of avoiding social situations because you’re feeling low, which can make you feel much worse
· Although your brain is screaming at you to eat a second helping of cake or give into other carb loaded indulgences, try to curb your carb cravings – comfort eating can easily become a crutch, and won’t make you happier in the long term if it becomes a ritual
· Supplements – simply taking a daily B12 supplement can help as it aids with the release of energy from your food…making you feel less sleepy, and more motivated!
· Try not to get too hung up on Christmas! Considering it’s one of the happiest and cheerful holidays of the year, it can be pretty testing when it comes to keeping your cool over gift shopping and spending a WHOLE DAY with your nearest and dearest. My advice is, sort the presents out early, and remember Christmas only comes but once a year!
Hopefully these simple tips will enable you or someone you know to have a happier winter! For more information, visit Mind.org or NHS Direct.
As soon as pay day arrived, I swiftly went on an amazon book binge. One of the more practical books I purchased bought as an afterthought to add some severity to my mostly fiction based paperbacks, was Dr Meg Jay’s The Defining Decade: Why Your Twenties Matter and How to Make the Most of Them Now. Split into three sections – work, love, body & brain – it covers the essentials of life as an adult.
It helped me personally to realise the importance of what Kay conceptualises as “identity capital”. Identity capital are the parts of you which can enable you to achieve goals or at least move closer to attaining particular aspects of life; whether it’s going to look good on your CV, helps you to become a more stable person, or puts you in a better position to settle down with a significant other.
In my case, I needed to gain identity capital in regards to my future career by using my time productively – I knew I wanted to begin a career in marketing, I have a good degree, and yet for the past few months have been happy to just limit myself to working in a shoe shop before I “felt ready” to seek a graduate job. At the end of the day, there is no point at which I would have felt ready, and simply working as a sales assistant was not going to help me to achieve what I wanted. If I wanted to make sure that in a years’ time I had a job that put me on the path to forging my desired career, I was going to need to invest in myself through internships to get experience and night classes to gain knowledge and possibly professional qualifications.
Despite the book probably being aimed at people a few years older than me, I think it will be beneficial for people just entering their twenties to be aware of Dr Jay’s insights into adult development – you can only do it once, so you may as well be prepared. For instance it’s now clear from the start that this valuable decade of adult development is crucial to how my life will be when I’m in my thirties and forties – do I want to pursue an ambitious career? Do I want to have children by a particular age? Where would I like to live? When do I plan to leave home?
This is the time to start and develop a professional life, have valuable relationships with people, and avoid frittering away this decade because “life begins at 30”. I have a bucket list of things I want to do, and like many others my age I fear growing older without having experienced everything – but I know that whether or not I went to a festival in every continent is not going to ease any regrets I have for not thinking about the important things such as making time for relationships with the right people, and not being afraid to put myself out there career wise.
At 21 I have barely begun what many would consider to be proper adulthood, and much to my frustration am often treated like a child (I personally blame the fact I have the face of a 15 year old, at a push…); yet inspired by Dr Meg Jay…I fully intend to start acting like one!